deanb Posted July 2, 2013 Report Share Posted July 2, 2013 Got a new housemate today. As he's unpacking showing off his stuff; DVD boxsets of Yes, Minister and Thick of It, bunch of AD&D books and expansions. And then Mein Kampf. The next year is going to be interesting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faiblesse Des Sens Posted July 2, 2013 Report Share Posted July 2, 2013 Sounds like a huge dork. Hopefully they're alright socially. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanb Posted July 2, 2013 Report Share Posted July 2, 2013 Yeah he's fine socially. No more socially awkward than the rest of us (given we spent the night playing Rouge Trader). He's one of my housemates and sisters long term friends, and has been popping up to ours frequently past year, (to the point where we've joked come next week he'll have spent more nights here than the last two housemates we had). He's highly socially compatible with our group of friends (more so than most given how long we've all known each other). He was second choice after me for being a third housemate. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheFlyingGerbil Posted July 2, 2013 Report Share Posted July 2, 2013 how many people are there in your house at any one time? I'm struggling to keep up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanb Posted July 3, 2013 Report Share Posted July 3, 2013 It's a three bed. We had myself, Erin (friend from school) and Melissa (Erin's uni friend). Turn of new year Melissa mostly moved back to parents due to personal issues. March Nick(Erin/Mel's uni friend) moved in to take over mels contract. That contract ended other day (Melissa negotiated for a shorter contract due to only needing it to complete uni). So Lewis (Erin n sisters friend, and I guess mine of late) moved in for the next year (landlord wanted a full 12 month doing). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Waldorf and Statler Posted July 3, 2013 Report Share Posted July 3, 2013 (edited) It's a good thing you got him for the whole year. My friends struggled so much finding roomies for the amount of time they needed they basically had to beg people and haggle with them to sign up. They even had to bargain with changing something they didn't like of them, like being dirty motherfuckers. Boy did that house turn christian to the point we couldn't hang out there just to not piss off one of their roomies. Edited July 3, 2013 by Waldorf And Statler Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanb Posted July 7, 2013 Report Share Posted July 7, 2013 Downside of moving rooms and it being hot is we have the windows wide open and now I'm in the room near the kitchen. So I hear all the comments of them talking about me supposedly never doing the washing up*. I'm the unemployed person that's in all day. I do most of the washing, and certainly far more in excess of the amount I actually produce (given I have no boyfriends to invite over and can't really afford to make huge extravagant meals, and make a habit of using one cup through the day instead of a fresh cup for each drink, so on so forth). Confronted them, made it worse as then the BF even claimed to wash up more than I do (he hates washing up so much that he's traded dinner out in return for me doing their washing up, and also he tends to flee in the morning leaving their prior nights meal unwashed). I had suggested today for a impromptu board game session, but not quite in the mood now. Especially as windows have now been closed, gonna make it a toasty day which can only lit spirits. *"but at least he can do tech stuff". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheFlyingGerbil Posted July 7, 2013 Report Share Posted July 7, 2013 omg I would love being able to overhear people talk about me - it's really useful. I'd be tempted to be really petty and not do any of their dishes at all as they probably don't even realise how quickly they stack up. I guess a more sensible compromise is to only do them when there are witnesses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanb Posted July 7, 2013 Report Share Posted July 7, 2013 Doesn't really solve anything for anyone. Especially as I actually kinda enjoy doing the dishes, popping on a playlist n just blasting through a bunch of pots. I don't think it has been fully grasped that having boyfriend over for a few days adds quite a bit (given fuller meals tends to be cooked with multiple pans, let alone the extra crockery and cutlery) and there's a third housemate (we spent a fair while with just two of us as mentioned above). We kinda banned Nick from washing up as he wasn't overly good at it, but that didn't mean he making meals. As for talking about folks, we're generally pretty open with folks. I guess part of my annoyance is we've been living together for most of the year now and it has not once being something that has been brought up. I'm kinda thinking it's the boyfriend trying to score vague brownie points (he was washing up for the 4th time this year at the time). At least (As best I can tell, it's past the half way mark now) he has stopped using my toothpaste. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Waldorf and Statler Posted July 7, 2013 Report Share Posted July 7, 2013 What you could do is clearly mark/label each time somebody washes dishes and keep a record. Not to use against them, just in case they ever try to use it against you.Imagine their surprise if they're complaining that you never wash dishes and you pop out an excel chart/calendar and state how you've washed dishes on average more than bla and bla in a six month span. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanb Posted July 7, 2013 Report Share Posted July 7, 2013 Given I got pretty miffed when the boyfriend tried that a month or so back it'd be a tad hypocritical of me. There's in general no quota or what not to hit, just a case of everyone pulling their weight and doing what needs to be done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Waldorf and Statler Posted July 8, 2013 Report Share Posted July 8, 2013 I'm only saying it since when people recall information they might tend to overlook information to make their target look bad. Plus if you're the one keeping the data you could easily see when you're lagging behind and offer to wash the dishes the next time to catch up, without ever having to mention that you're keeping said chart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanb Posted April 5, 2014 Report Share Posted April 5, 2014 Has it really been a while since anyone posted here? Anywho just hit tipping point with one of current housemates. Room has generally always been a tip, but it's been expanding from his room and into general household. Double so that more and more of the kitchen has ended up in his room. So just done a bit of a raid on his room, secured kitchen implements, binned some of his more obvious rubbish like empty bottles and 6 month old baguettes. Found a fresh butt put out on one of his cans. I'd noticed it stunk of smoke but just figured it was him. So yeah him smoking in the house, in his pre-build bonfire of a room on top of that, isn't leaving me well impressed. The fact he's spent most evenings with almost non-stop Red Orchestra too (and I don't know how long in the day, I'm at work) instead of lifting even the barest amount of finger to bring things up to scratch. I've offered to help have a bit of a tidy up of his room, the computer he's playing RO2 on is my old PC (even has the monitor that my new purchase replaced too). Gonna join forces with other housemate and try and get his shit in order. We'd let it slide at first with "oh well he's just getting used to moving out, his independence" but it's been nearly a year now (our fault for giving him even a few months leeway I guess). The BF mentioned in previous posts is also gone bye byes too. New one is pretty cool. Certainly get along with them both much more than I did with her and past BF. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheFlyingGerbil Posted April 6, 2014 Report Share Posted April 6, 2014 (edited) How's he going to feel about you going in to his room? Did you tell him before he found out to take the edge off it Edited April 6, 2014 by TheFlyingGerbil Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanb Posted April 6, 2014 Report Share Posted April 6, 2014 I'm aware of issue there. We already generally fine with popping in each others rooms for bits n bobs. His right to be annoyed at my partial clean of his room falls way below the whole smoking in house, hoarding cups n dishes, n old bread. He'd been asked to specifically sort the glasses from his room several times the past week. He'd give "yeah I'll sort it" then return to RO2. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mal Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 Okay, maybe they are just friends but in what part of being friends involve sleeping and being in the same bed constitute being friends? Note, it is my female roommate with her male friend. The dude was just in shorts. She supposedly has a boyfriend who's still out and about working before moving in with us (Me and two other people). I personally don't care about my roommate's love life but one of the things me and another roommate has done was to allow rent to be split by person. The thing is, the female roommate has the master bedroom with its own bath. She is paying the same amount in rent as me and the other roommate. The only reason I am fine with that is that her boyfriend was going to move in eventually. We are splitting the rent by head count to help each other get a place ASAP. You help me, I help you kind of thing. If the master bedroom doesn't get filled with another person, I think I might have to get my other roommate's help to negotiate with the girl for a flat rate for that room. I'll be nice and have it be lower than if two people were in there but that is it. One last note... we all are graduate students in the same department. We can't avoid each other if relationship turns sour. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheMightyEthan Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 I have slept in my underwear in the same bed as a girl with whom I was just friends. That's why my underwear stayed on instead of my usual birthday suit. Not saying they're not fucking, just that it's possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mal Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 Yeah I suppose. I just personally haven't seen it so it is just odd and could easily be seen in the wrong way. Well I give my roommate and her friend a slight nod of approval with the open bedroom door. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheFlyingGerbil Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 Maybe they just want you to watch 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CorgiShinobi Posted August 31, 2014 Author Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 I mean, it's rare, but I did once have a roommate who let a girl or two just sleep in his bed. I didn't pry further, but with how small the beds were in our apartment, there had to be at least some spooning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mal Posted August 31, 2014 Report Share Posted August 31, 2014 Maybe they just want you to watch That is one hell of a way to assert dominance. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanb Posted February 3, 2015 Report Share Posted February 3, 2015 So some of you may know I'm having fun times with a housemate. Most of that is bridge under the water, but mainly cos he's been unemployed about the past month and gone right back to his old antics of doing bot all around the house. He spends most of his time just in him room (to the point of some of us can not see him for days at a time) watching youtube videos and replying to comment threads on Newspaper FB Pages. Spend the first week drinking until other housemate confiscated it all and his debit card. Heck they even offered to pay his bills if he cleaned up the house on a regular basis, but he doesn't even really clean up himself. One time other week we left him with some of his dishes in the sink for three nights until one of us was "fuck it" and took it out to wash up (we'd been out most nights so little of build up of washing up needing done). I've had to since ban everyone from using my fave spatula cos he carries on leaving it in pool of murky greasy "soaking the dishes" water, and he still goes and uses it (I've since hid it in my cupboard, then if I see him with it again he's not only disobeyed my intial bout of "you use it, wash", my further command of "you ain't using it at all", but also gone past all that and purposefully gone through my cupboards to use it. And he still won't wash it up. He never joins in with anything we organise either. And stupid of all, stupid on the rest of us for doing it, we've just signed up for a new property for another year with him. I don't understand the purpose he has of hanging around if all he's going to do is pretend he's not part of the house 99% of the time. He's unemployed, so no tether here anymore, he doesn't hang around with us, he doesn't participate in the house apart from popping out to watch Archer then pop back in his room. Never mind his being here now makes it uncomfortable for others to come around too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faiblesse Des Sens Posted February 5, 2015 Report Share Posted February 5, 2015 Time to give him the boot. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanb Posted February 5, 2015 Report Share Posted February 5, 2015 Not my choice to make unfortunately. Firstly we'd have to buy him out his contract, something none of us would be able to do, secondly he's long term friends with one of the housemates, though she has implied she'd boot him in the past, but I've a feeling that's for more serious shit. Other housemate is her boyfriend, and future housemate is her brother. So yeah. But I guess we'll see what the next year has in store, I imagine if he ends up sanctioned or making more drama it'll likely be replanned on whether we continue living with him onwards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheMightyEthan Posted February 5, 2015 Report Share Posted February 5, 2015 Sanctioned? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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